How To Silence Your Inner Critic / 4
In the last lesson, I told you there’s hope for us all, because neuroscientists are finding plenty of evidence that we can rewire our brains.
In other words…
If we get stuck in our negative thinking, we can always create healthier patterns.
It’s never too late.
And the first step is to BECOME AWARE of our current thinking – instead of pretending it’s not there.
Make a note of the thoughts that make you uncomfortable. Nonsense ideas you may never previously have put down on paper.
When you start, you’ll find there’s a lot of it. And it keeps coming…
Mind you, the specifics change over time.
For instance: I used to think I was “too young” to do X, Y or Z.
Then, mysteriously, at a point I can’t precisely identify, I started thinking I was “too old”. It was “too late”.
Bet you had the same, no matter what your current age is.
A few years ago, I was running a workshop for a group of about 30 adults who had lost the free spirit of creativity they’d enjoyed as children.
I decided to show them my drawing of Uriah, and to read aloud the speech bubbles coming out of his head – to show the specific, shameful thoughts that troubled me at the time.
Sketch: showing my inner critic to a room full of strangers
I want to tell you that it made me extremely uncomfortable to hold up that picture in front of these strangers, and to read out those horrible specimens of self-criticism.
Part of my brain said: “Tell them ‘I’ll never be successful’! ‘I’m too old’! I can’t do that!”
But I did it anyway.
And as I looked around at the faces before me, I realised that they weren’t especially interested in my inner critic.
They were much more interested in uncovering their own.
And I’ll tell you something else that happened. Something entirely unexpected and magical:
My own ANXIETIES DISAPPEARED as soon as the words left my mouth.
I’d let them free.
Not bad, eh?
Having shared my own self-critical thoughts, I invited everybody to do what you’ve already done: to draw their own critic, give it a name, and list the negative thoughts.
And I asked them to notice, as I ask YOU to notice, that the negative thoughts are always only a point of view.
Am I right?
Often, people tell me I’m wrong.
They say that the reason they can’t do, or be, whatever they dream of is REAL.
In the next lesson, I’ll explain why that’s a mistake. An easy mistake, a tempting mistake – but still a mistake.
No Homework This Time
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